{"id":15438,"date":"2016-07-27T08:00:46","date_gmt":"2016-07-27T13:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachingvb.com\/?p=15438"},"modified":"2016-07-27T08:00:46","modified_gmt":"2016-07-27T13:00:46","slug":"dont-give-me-reason-want-bury-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/2016\/07\/27\/dont-give-me-reason-want-bury-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t give me reason to want to bury you"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

One day in July of 2016 Facebook told me it was the anniversary of my initial arrival in Sweden. I was only there initially for a couple of weeks to get to know the Svedala area a bit after leaving England. I went to Germany for about three weeks<\/a> before I actually began work with the team at the start of preseason.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At that point I didn’t know what the future had in store for me. I knew I was coaching my first professional team. That’s about it. For the first time in a while I didn’t have concerns about my next step in life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seven months later it was a very different situation. I’d just been cut loose by the club out of the blue<\/a>. It was definitely a shock, and it stung. At that point, though, my main focus was on getting out of Sweden and finding a new job. Then I had to move and start a new position. It was a whirlwind that probably didn’t give me as much time to process things emotionally as might have been the case otherwise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A couple weeks before the Facebook notice I chatted with one of the Svedala players. I asked her how things went after I left. As much as I wanted to know during the season what changes there were – if any – I didn’t want to ask. It could have been a distraction, which would not have been fair to the team.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anyway, major changes were highly unlikely. The squad was too small and the player positions and roles were well-established. She confirmed that and told me the big issue the rest of the season was player confidence in certain areas. Sadly, that was a reversal of a major focus from the first part of the season.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Surprisingly to me, some emotion about that whole Svedala situation bubbled up at that point. The timing was interesting given the anniversary. I found myself thinking about going back to Sweden some day with the intent to dominate the Elitserie with another club. It’s definitely an “I’ll show you!” type attitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And thus do you learn that telling me I can’t or I’m not good enough is a great way to motivate me to show you just what I am capable of – at your expense. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P.S. I had similar feelings when I didn’t get the head job at Midwestern State<\/a> – perhaps even stronger.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As my life and job situation settled down after leaving Sweden, some of the emotion of the transition surfaced, giving me more motivation toward excellence.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12783,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,15],"tags":[106],"class_list":["post-15438","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-n-r","category-coaching-volleyball-stories","tag-coaching-motivation"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15438","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15438"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15438\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15438"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15438"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/testsite.coachingvb.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15438"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}